Lifelet: Intertwining stories of love and church

Father John Madigan stood with no notes at the front of the alter at Bellevue’s Sacred Heart Church at the Easter Vigil mass and mesmerized me with his welcoming of new Catechumens to the Catholic Church.  We were there to celebrate the wife of a close friend and colleague joining the Catholic community.

Father Madigan asked us to remember when we fell in love with the person we might marry.  “Remember the stories you share of meeting that person and then meeting your loved one’s family.  As your love grew together, your stories also grew together.  And then as you each meet the other’s family, now a larger set of stories are intertwined.  Our lives in the largest sense are the intermingling of our stories.  A key part of those stories revolves around being invited to dinner.”

Father Madigan gently invited us to remember our shared stories with our loved ones and how those stories grew and expanded over the years.

Then he shifted gears addressing the Catechumens directly: “Tonight your shared journey and stories have led you to join in the shared stories of the Catholic Church. Each of you has a story of what brought you to your discernment journey to join the church.  During your RCIA sessions you shared your stories.  To celebrate your stories we are inviting you to dinner to join with us in the Lord’s Supper.  Your individual stories will now be a part of this community’s shared stories.”

Father John Madigan baptizing a Catechumen

Shared stories.  Intertwined stories.  Shared love.  Invitation to supper.

What a beautiful reminder of the value of rites of passage in our lives to generate stories.

As we prayed for our friend’s discernment and journey to joining us at the Lord’s dinner, I was reminded of my own choosing to join the Catholic Church 25 years ago.  I reflected on how my stories have intertwingled with our family and our community through the years.

Thank you Father John Madigan for bringing the story of Jesus, and the Easter Vigil alive for us this day.  We welcome all the new Catechumens as they join us for our communion.

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Lifelet: Finding Rainbows

This morning I turned the corner and there was a welcoming rainbow.  Our house has a wide range of crystal objects in curio cabinets and hanging from the windows.  Depending on whether the sun is out and about at sunrise (not always a common event in Seattle) and the time of year, different objects catch and split the sun’s rays.

Today it is a crystal goblet in my brother in laws’ “Creative Woodcrafter” custom cabinet refracting the sun (fortunately not redacting the sun).

Rainbow Surprise

I stop for a minute and marvel at the synthesis of man made object and the rays of nature.  How blessed to reflect on the beauty that starts my day.  Even before I have my first cup of coffee, I can just BE and absorb this small beauty gift.

The real beauty of Seattle weather comes in the late afternoon after a rainy day.  The sun will come out for a short time and I start looking for a rainbow.  Soon one will show up somewhere on our fifty mile expansive view of the Puget Sound.  A special delight of our window onto the world is that we can see full rainbows.  This photographic panorama captures a double rainbow.

Rainbow Pot of Gold is the Bainbridge Ferry

As I take this picture, I feel the tug of racing out of the house to find at least one of the pots of gold at the end of the rainbow.  Then my reality brain cuts in and I realize the water is really cold.

We see rainbows in every direction.  Often the ferry enters the picture as well.  I can’t resist capturing the rainbow as the white of the ferry becomes almost translucent in this magical intersection of light and rain drops.

Rainbow Gallery

As the ferry chases the rainbow, I wonder if the ferry captain is seeking the pot of gold or hopes that the gold jumps on to the car deck.

Following the Rainbow

The ferry chases the rainbow away and the joyous colored light fades.

I recall the image I pursue in all my business endeavors – building the innovative rainbows of my software product visions.

Building My Rainbow

Lately, with the gift of another generation of our family, I turn to how can I build a better rainbow of a life so that my grand children can thrive.

The most precious rainbows are the ones that my grands wear that go hand in hand with their fascination with unicorns:

 

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Lifelet: The Easter Bunny is Back

Many moons ago my wife took a cake decorating class before we had children.  Now that our waists have expanded and our children have their own families, the cake decorating creative outputs don’t show up very often.

With grand children, the cakes still arrive on happy occasions.

When I limped into the house last night after a very long day consulting, I turned the corner into the kitchen and there was the Easter Bunny cake.  A needed smile jumped onto my face.

Easter Bunny Cake 2019

I look forward to the smiles that it brings to the grand children this weekend.

Easter Bunny Cake 2016

Isn’t it amazing how the Easter Bunny doesn’t age as the grand children grow oh so fast.

Easter Bunny with Family 2019

Some traditions are a joy to eat, oops celebrate.

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Lifelet: Mourning Rain

How fitting that I start the day looking out at the rain and grays of the Puget Sound.  Seattle is barely visible to the East.

Puget Sound kaleidoscope of grays

The grays match my mourning mood.  The Mueller report is being released today.  Even CNN showed a little humor this morning in the redacted subject line of their daily email.

CNN gallows humor

As I sit with my morning coffee observing the ferries on their hourly to and fro, I am once again amazed at how much fascination I have with these shades of gray.  When I first wake up, there is this undifferentiated gray curtain hanging over the water.

Staring and eyes roaming, I see that there are clouds in the sky.  Their outlines a bit blurred but they are there.  The gray of the water is different from the gray of the clouds.  And there are multi-gray ripples as the light wind roams the water’s surface.  The gray curtain slowly decomposes into separate objects.

Looking down, not out, color springs to the fore.  Yay, the azaleas are starting to bloom.  The green of the hedges and trees start to shine through the dismal gray.  There is color here.  Slowly the Japanese maple tree maroon red distinguishes itself from the greens.  There are blossoms on our lonely Japanese cherry tree.  That is a miracle.  Evidently the deer can’t reach that high.

Color emerges

My mind wanders back to the days coming events.  Will the Mueller report shed light on the dangers of our incompetent government or will the LGBTQ rainbow colored redactions continue to hide the blindingly obvious?

Be. Here. Now.

Be. Here. Now.

One Day at a Time.

One Step at a Time.

Moving. Flowing. Flowering.

I refocus to bring myself back to the grays in front of me.  I slow my mind. I focus on the sounds of the grays.  Pitter pitter pitter as the water drops bounce off our plastic table on the deck.  A dull roar comes from the roof as the rain intensifies.  A crow caws.  The low throat-ed growl of the Victoria Clipper rumbles across Elliot Bay.

Here comes the ferry.  I hear it before I can see it.

The rich smell of my Nespresso coffee breaks my reverie.  Time for a sip of the bitter nectar of awakening.

Who knew there was so much “color” in the mourning rain?

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Lifelet: Value is Co-Created

Many moons ago, Katherine James Schuitemaker entered my life as I interviewed her for a senior marketing position at Aldus.  It was my first explicit encounter with Value Co-creation.

I asked Katherine “what is your philosophy and understanding of branding?” I expected some lametard answer about designing cool logos (my feeble understanding of branding at the time). Instead I got an education that started with “Branding is everything!” expressed with every energetic fiber in Katherine’s being.

Whoa! I had to challenge that. “Excuse me, but product is everything. Marketing is just the gloss and expensive budget that is spent without any controls. What do you mean branding is everything?”

Talk about waving a red flag in front of a charging bull. Katherine launched.

“Branding is everything. What you build as a product is just one component of the brand. The brand is the essence of everything Aldus needs to do as a company. Brand is the promise that is made to every customer. Brand is the experience that every customer has with every aspect of the product. From the first minute that the customer becomes aware of Aldus, to the out of box experience, to the trial of the product, to learning to use the product, to calling customer support when they have a problem, to receiving and installing product updates, to how you help the customer tell their friends about how wonderful your product is – branding is everything.”

I was having a hard time taking notes with the fire hose of passion that Katherine unleashed.

To slow Katherine down, I asked for an example.

Katherine explained to me her conception of branding by telling the story of her work in promoting the HP LaserJet.  While doing scores of buyer and user interviews, she kept hearing the customers say “I love my LaserJet.”  It took her a while to realize that the customers might actually mean they really had an emotional relationship with an object instead of a person.

When the customers were asked specifically about using a verb like “love”, they just laughed and said “of course, we don’t really mean that we love it in that sense.”  Yet, customer after customer kept saying those words.  So Katherine and her team decided to try out some print and TV advertisements using exactly that theme.

Long before I met Katherine and to this day, I remember those ads with enterprise customers talking about how they loved their HP Laserjet.  I remember a business manager sitting at his desk in white shirt and tie enthusiastically sharing “I love my LaserJet.”  I thought it was the dumbest ad.  Yet, what have I done since seeing those ads?  I have only bought HP LaserJets – for thirty plus years.  Those ads that Katherine generated increased LaserJet sales by over 1000% to billions of dollars per year.

Katherine used those insights as a core part of her Value Exchange Relationship process.  Some of the questions that she asks product teams (in oh so many ways) are:

Value Exchange Relationships

Katherine took the customer research and turned it into the core of how she has helped countless companies since – people are in deep relationship with the objects of their life in a very similar manner to how they are in relationship with other people.

Little did I know that interview interaction would start a 25 year collaboration and friendship.

About the time I met Katherine, I met John Heskett at the Institute of Design at Illinois Tech. While on a sabbatical, John started synthesizing his life’s work into what he termed Value Creation Theory.  Recently, Clive Dilnot pulled together many of John’s writings into his book, Design and the Creation of Value.

“Heskett lays out the substantive principle of the organization of the seminar as follows:

In considering the economic role and value of design, two major aspects need to be discussed. Firstly, it is necessary to come to terms with the existing body of economic theory and practice and ask to what extent can it shed light on essential roles design can play in the context of business. Secondly, the way economic theory defines its field, and the tools and methods it uses, have come to constitute tightly defined forms of orthodoxy. Can design supplement or reinforce economic theory in clarifying and amplifying aspects of business in ways that at present are not commonly recognized? The question here is whether design theory and practice has the potential to add to, extend or provide linkages to economic theory. The organisation of this book is therefore broadly based on these two perspectives: one examining design from the standpoint of economic theory; the other examining economic theory and business practice through the prism of design.

The only caveat to Heskett’s explanation is that in fact, as the title of the seminar suggests, there are actually three, and not two, areas of concern here. There is design, for the book is, overall, essentially about how design can be understood and misunderstood (it is first of all a contribution to the understanding of design). There is economics – for the core of the book is a historical presentation and critique of economic thought vis-à-vis design. But there is also the third element, value. Value means here largely, but by no means only, economic value (for ultimately it is the extension of value creation beyond the economic narrowly thought that is Heskett’s concern). But value is the crucial third term in the equation because it is the essential mediator between economics and design. It is the introduction of ‘value’ as a concept lying between design and economics (but belonging fully to neither) that allows the dialogue to begin.

Design and the Creation of Value is, therefore, essentially the exploration of the relations between these three moments.”

Heskett, John. Design and the Creation of Value (pp. 5-6). Bloomsbury Publishing. Kindle Edition.

In previous publications, John diagrams the relationship of economics, design, and value:

Value Creation Theory

After many discussions with John, I begged him to publish his early work.  It took another twenty years, but it finally got published.  In the mean time, I could not help myself.  I just had to add to John’s work with my experiences with creating new ventures and in mentoring other entrepreneurs.

Value Creation Theory Extended

A couple of years ago, I extended my understanding of Value Co-Creation when I came across the book, Value as a Service: Embracing the Coming Disruption.

“We need to move to a concept that I call value as a service. It’s the simple idea that we promise that we will deliver to the customer something that will lead to quantifiable improvement: this much saved, this much improvement in lead generation, this much improvement in revenue, and this much improvement in employee retention.

In the future, every corporate purchaser will say, “You want me to buy what you are selling. Fine. Here’s the very specific, quantifiable set of outcomes I want. Prove to me that you are going to deliver them, and I’ll buy. If you can’t, I won’t.”

The relationship between buyer and seller should work like this. You’re going to pay a subscription fee, or pay for a product or service, and in return, we will give you something of value that can be clearly and distinctly articulated.

Bernshteyn, Rob. Value as a Service: Embracing the Coming Disruption . Greenleaf Book Group Press. Kindle Edition.

Shortly after encountering “Value as a Service”, I met Jim Spohrer of IBM research at a Computer Research Association visioning series of workshops.  He introduced me to the concept of Service Science that he had co-developed at IBM.  I had never heard of the discipline so I devoured everything that I could find in short order.  I was delighted to find a wealth of research and insights that helped resolve a fifty year management dilemma of mine – how do you manage both professional services and product development at the same time?  Over the years I’ve managed to do well with one or the other, but I’ve never been able to manage both simultaneously very successfully. Jim’s research provided a wealth of answers and insights.

Value Co-Creation through Service Systems

Several key concepts from Service Science extended what I’d learned from Katherine and John and “Value as a Service” with Value Co-Creation being an important synthesis.

For conciseness, we think pay for performance is a reasonable definition of a service—in that this phrase captures the idea that what the provider does for the client is essential, as opposed to exchange of an artifact or a good being essential. However, combining Fitzsimmons and Fitzsimmons’s definition with Hill’s definition, a time-perishable, intangible experience performed for a client who is acting as a coproducer to transform a state of the client, reveals some other essential characteristics of services: namely, that the client plays a key role in coproduction activities (the client has responsibilities) and in the co-creation of value (transformed state of the client) (see also Sampson and Froehle 2006). To understand the notion of responsibility in a coproduction activity, consider a teacher telling a student to read a book and work a problem set (exercises) or a doctor instructing a patient to eat certain foods and exercise more. In both cases, the providers perform certain activities, but the clients must also perform activities that transform their own states or else the benefit or value of the service will not be fully attained. In business services, if the client does not install the new IT systems and train the necessary people in the reengineered process, the client will not receive the benefit of the service. Thus, the provider in many cases must negotiate to monitor and assess that the client is performing adequately on the client’s responsibilities, and, of course, the client needs to determine that the provider is likewise applying satisfactory effort and quality controls in the performance of the provider’s tasks. These issues become of paramount importance in outsourcing services, when a client may outsource a component of its business to a provider that is in a different country with different government regulations and national culture of the employees.

The next key concept from Service Science was how work evolves and cycles between professional services and products.  This diagram captures that sequence.

Work Evolution in Service Systems

The minute I saw this diagram was a head slapping moment.  Throughout my professional life of creating software products, I stopped at the Augment stage.  Then I went on to the next opportunity.  I never realized that there was a larger process and that the process was a cycle.  My future work is to take an important problem and go through the cycle, and then find the next important problem and repeat.

As part of trying to create Service Science, the authors tried to articulate principles that would allow the development of a theory.  While principles have not emerged yet, a series of premises have emerged.

Service Science Premises

Dan Pink in To Sell is Human points out the importance of “pitching” whether for a new venture or a new product or hiring a terrific talent.  Value co-creation is important in product development, and it is critical in product marketing and selling.  He points to research from Elsbach and Kramer on the importance of pitching AND catching:

“Kimberly Elsbach of the University of California, Davis, and Roderick Kramer of Stanford University spent five years in the thick of the Hollywood pitch process. They sat in on dozens of pitch meetings, analyzed transcripts of pitching sessions, and interviewed screenwriters, agents, and producers. The award-winning study2 they wrote for the Academy of Management Journal offers excellent guidance even for those of us on the living room side of the streaming video.

Their central finding was that the success of a pitch depends as much on the catcher as on the pitcher. In particular, Elsbach and Kramer discovered that beneath this elaborate ritual were two processes. In the first, the catcher (i.e., the executive) used a variety of physical and behavioral cues to quickly assess the pitcher’s (i.e., the writer’s) creativity. The catchers took passion, wit, and quirkiness as positive cues—and slickness, trying too hard, and offering lots of different ideas as negative ones. If the catcher categorized the pitcher as “uncreative” in the first few minutes, the meeting was essentially over even if it had not actually ended.

But for pitchers, landing in the creative category wasn’t enough, because a second process was at work. In the most successful pitches, the pitcher didn’t push her idea on the catcher until she extracted a yes. Instead, she invited in her counterpart as a collaborator. The more the executives—often derided by their supposedly more artistic counterparts as “suits”—were able to contribute, the better the idea often became, and the more likely it was to be green-lighted. The most valuable sessions were those in which the catcher “becomes so fully engaged by a pitcher that the process resembles a mutual collaboration,” the researchers found.3 “Once the catcher feels like a creative collaborator, the odds of rejection diminish,” Elsbach says.4 Some of the study’s subjects had their own way of describing these dynamics. One Oscar-winning producer told the professors, “At a certain point the writer needs to pull back as the creator of the story. And let [the executive] project what he needs onto your idea that makes the story whole for him.” However, “in an unsuccessful pitch,” another producer explained, “the person just doesn’t yield or doesn’t listen well.”

The lesson here is critical: The purpose of a pitch isn’t necessarily to move others immediately to adopt your idea. The purpose is to offer something so compelling that it begins a conversation, brings the other person in as a participant, and eventually arrives at an outcome that appeals to both of you. In a world where buyers have ample information and an array of choices, the pitch is often the first word, but it’s rarely the last.”

Pink, Daniel H.. To Sell Is Human: The Surprising Truth About Moving Others (pp. 157-158). Penguin Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.

Even at the start of an important endeavor, success in getting others to join you on the journey involves co-creating that value.

A very simple example of value co-creation showed up in my email as an invitation from the CEO of Arivale.  I just joined their health coaching offering and got the proverbial welcome email from the CEO.  Ordinarily, I ignore such marketing ploys.  However, I am impressed so far with the service, so I decided to respond.  I was delightfully amazed that the CEO (or surrogate?) promptly responded with an invitation to co-create.

Hi Skip,

I want to personally thank you for joining Arivale and placing your trust in us as you begin your journey.

When I think about our work at Arivale, I think about stories. I think of Kirby, who was motivated to turn his health around so he could be there for his young children. I think of Nita, who signed up hoping to lose the weight she gained after a knee replacement.

We started Arivale with the mission to empower individuals to transform their lives with a plan for taking action, one-on-one coaching, and personalized data. We’ve now seen thousands of people take control of their health, and we’re looking forward to helping you do it, too.

I invite you to reach out to me if you have questions or comments as you progress on your journey.

Congratulations on taking this big step. I’m rooting for you.

Clayton Lewis
CEO and Co-Founder

Clayton,
Thank you for reaching out.  I’ve heard about Arivale for years and was interested in some of the pioneer stories that led to Arivale founding (like from a UW professor colleague).  I have just started with a Coach and have enjoyed my multi-channel (telephone coaching, text messaging, and email exchanges) interactions with her.  I am looking forward to the results of the blood testing and gut testing to add further insights to my condition.  I realized that it was time to start dealing with my sleeping and weight issues.  I’ve already learned a lot and appreciate your coach’s help.  I look forward to learning more as we continue our interactions.
As I gain more experience with Arivale and achieving my health goals I look forward to continuing this conversation.
Thanks,
Skip Walter

Skip – I’m glad that you and our mutual colleague have talked. It has been a fantastic journey that started with leaders like our professor friend.

I look forward to hearing how your health continues to improve.

Please let me know if we can do anything to make the program more effective for you.

Best,

CL

It doesn’t take much other than a simple invitation to co-create value.  But how many of us feel duty bound to tell others everything we know, rather than looking for the opportunity to listen and co-create value.

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Lifelet: Coins Under My Pillow

Surprised by Joy.   I have always loved this title of a C.S. Lewis book.

This morning I was surprised by the joy of finding several coins under my pillow.

Coins under my pillow

My lovely bride surprised me once again.  As always, it brought a smile and started my day with great joy.

I also realized she is reading my blog posts.

A couple of days ago I did a post “Behold the Tooth Fairy.”  At the end I wrote:

Which got me to wondering again, if the tooth ferry is good enough for a child’s “first trauma” shouldn’t we have something this comforting for adult traumas.  While the trauma fairy doesn’t sound all that inviting, and the notion of God seems too big for a personal trauma, shouldn’t we invent an adult trauma fairy?

I feel the smile welling up within me as I think about reaching under my pillow and finding a gold coin (inflation sets in for adults, of course).  What a comfort that coin would be.

So this morning I found four coins under my pillow:

  • An Australian Dollar Coin
  • A Canadian Dollar Coin
  • An English Coin
  • A Token

The three foreign coins were reminders of several of the trips we’ve taken over our 40+ year marriage.

As an example of her impish humor, the token was for the Brown Bear Car Wash.   This token was a not so gentle reminder that our car needs washing.

Thank you, beloved, for starting my day off with a lot of joy and fond memories.

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Lifelet: Mourning Notre Dame Cathedral

I couldn’t watch.

My wife kept beckoning me to see the live coverage of the terrible fire at Notre Dame Cathedral.  I couldn’t bring myself to watch.  I wanted to keep my fond memories of several visits to the cathedral rather than images of the raging fire.

Instead I went to my Google Photos library to see if I’d uploaded any of my photos.  These photos are a small subset from our trip to France in November of 2009.

Notre Dame Paris

Notre Dame Paris

Notre Dame Paris

It was with great relief that we saw that most of the organ was saved.

As with many of our visits to the great cathedrals of the world, I love just sitting in the middle of the church and meditating on the beauty that surrounds me for hours.

I am deeply grateful for the many donors who are contributing to the fund to rebuild Notre Dame.  The world desperately needs the beauty that previous generations bequeathed us.

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Lifelet: Adult questions from a grand

Our oldest grand daughter wanted to go to church with us on Palm Sunday.  She loves sitting in the choir loft with her grandmother.  Sometimes she listens to the singing.  Sometimes she draws in her coloring book.  What I didn’t realize is that she listens to the gospel readings and the homilies.

The gospel for Palm Sunday was from Luke Chapter 22:14 – 23:56.  A subset of the reading is:

The Betrayal and Arrest of Jesus.d47While he was still speaking, a crowd approached and in front was one of the Twelve, a man named Judas. He went up to Jesus to kiss him.48Jesus said to him, “Judas, are you betraying the Son of Man with a kiss?”49His disciples realized what was about to happen, and they asked, “Lord, shall we strike with a sword?”e50And one of them struck the high priest’s servant and cut off his right ear.f51* But Jesus said in reply, “Stop, no more of this!” Then he touched the servant’s ear and healed him.52And Jesus said to the chief priests and temple guards and elders who had come for him, “Have you come out as against a robber, with swords and clubs?g53Day after day I was with you in the temple area, and you did not seize me; but this is your hour, the time for the power of darkness.”h

As we drove to our house for some after church collaborative painting, she asked “why was everybody so mean to Jesus?”  She couldn’t figure out why there was so much anger and violence.

“Can’t everybody just get along?  Why couldn’t they just talk it out? It was so rude what they did,” she continued.

I tried hard to stifle my laughter.  However, my wife in her wonderful way patiently explained some of the context.

As I listened to my wife’s explanation, I was reminded of what great questions these are for the many current divisions in our country.

As we shared her questions with her mom, she added “that sounds like her – we’ve been talking a lot about attitude and cooperation and how to work with others.”

I am so delighted that we have the gift of four lovely grand children.  I am excited that I now have the time to pay attention to the wonder of our world through their gifted eyes and ears.

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Lifelet: Painting with the Grands

Along with painting myself into existence, I am joyfully introducing two of my grand children into the joys of acrylic abstract painting.

Painting with the grands

What amazed me as I started “guiding” them into acrylic painting was the many questions I asked of them as we moved along:

  • What color do you want to use now?
  • Where do you want me to place the color?
  • How much of the paint do you want me to put out?
  • Do you want it on the canvas or on the palette dish?
  • Which brush do you want to use?
  • How are you going to hold your brush?
  • What kinds of marks are you going to make with the brush?
  • Are we done yet?

And that was just one side of the decisions when we were doing collaborative art.  I had to answer all of those questions for myself.

Maybe the question I should ask more is – what does the painting need right now to move forward?

I am loving this optimal ignorance experimenting while at the same time trying to teach/guide the grands.

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Lifelet: A Blog a Day

I need to write myself into existence – again.

During times of stress I realize that I am not writing enough.  More importantly, I am not writing enough about topics other than business.

One of my favorite books is A Year with Swollen Appendices: Brian Eno’s Diary.  The author published a year of notes he made and I found the eclectic collection a joyful way to spend many hours.  Brian describes his journey into generative music in a diary entry:

“Of course, the real can of worms opens up with the new stuff I’m doing – the self-generating stuff.  What is the status of a piece of its output?  Recently I sold a couple of pieces as film-music compositions (a minor triumph, and an indication of how convincing the material is becoming).  I just set up some likely rules and let the thing run until it played a bit I thought sounded right!  But of course the film-makers could also have done this – they could have bought my little floppy (for thus it will be) containing the ‘seeds’ for those pieces, and grown the plants themselves.  Then, what would the relationship be between me and those pieces?  There is, as far as I know, no copyright in the ‘rules’ by which something is made – which is what I specify in making these seed programs.”

“For me, this is becoming a stronger body of work every day.  Having now had the chance to try out some of the work on lots of different people (even without telling them how it is being made), I am convinced of its musical worth.  Then the fact of its infinite self-genesis comes as an incredible bonus.   So I will be very happy if, at the end of it all, I get recognition as a pioneer in this area.  That in itself (given the way things have worked for me in the past) will also turn out to pay the bills.  It’s something to do with what Esther Dyson was saying about servicing an idea: if I let the idea free, then I get paid for servicing it – extending it, updating it, extrapolating from it.

“The end of the era of reproduction.”

In a previous variant of writing myself into existence, I came across Natalie Goldberg’s Writing Down the Bones: Freeing the Writer Within.  She encourages daily free writing:

“This book is about writing. It is also about using writing as your practice, as a way to help you penetrate your life and become sane. What is said here about writing can be applied to running, painting, anything you love and have chosen to work with in your life. When I read several chapters to my friend John Rollwagen, president of Cray Research, he said, “Why, Natalie, you’re talking about business. That’s the way it is in business. There is no difference.”

Learning to write is not a linear process. There is no logical A-to-B-to-C way to become a good writer. One neat truth about writing cannot answer it all. There are many truths. To do writing practice means to deal ultimately with your whole life. If you receive instructions on how to set a broken bone in your ankle, you can’t use those same instructions to fill a cavity in your teeth. You might read a section in this book that says to be very specific and precise. That’s to help the ailment of abstract, general meandering in your writing. But then you read another chapter that says lose control, write on waves of emotion. That’s to encourage you to really say deep down what you need to say. Or in one chapter it says to fix up a studio, that you need a private place to write; the next chapter says, “Get out of the house, away from the dirty dishes. Go write in a café.” Some techniques are appropriate at some times and some for other times. Every moment is different. Different things work. One isn’t wrong and the other right.

When I teach a class, I want the students to be “writing down the bones,” the essential, awake speech of their minds. But I also know I can’t just say, “Okay, write clearly and with great honesty.”

Goldberg, Natalie. Writing Down the Bones (pp. 4-5). Shambhala. Kindle Edition.

My latest reminder that I need to “write myself into existence” came from an announcement in my email from the On Being blog:

Sunday, May 12, 2019, 3:45 p.m.
Minneapolis, MN
Ross Gay
The Loft’s Wordplay Festival

Krista will interview poet Ross Gay. After his 42nd birthday, Ross promised to write a mini essay every day for one year to capture anything delightful. The Book of Delights is the culmination of this project — essays that all start with a simple moment and blossom into larger conversations, ranging from politics and racism to Ross’s mother and gardening. He is also the author of three books of poetry: Against WhichBringing the Shovel Down; and Catalog of Unabashed Gratitude, winner of the 2015 National Book Critics Circle Award and the 2016 Kingsley Tufts Poetry Award.

I immediately ordered the book and enjoyed the delights.  In the Preface, Ross reminded me yet again that it was time to Wake Up! and write:

“One day last July, feeling delighted and compelled to both wonder about and share that delight, I decided that it might feel nice, even useful, to write a daily essay about something delightful. I remember laughing to myself for how obvious it was. I could call it something like The Book of Delights.

I came up with a handful of rules: write a delight every day for a year; begin and end on my birthday, August 1; draft them quickly; and write them by hand. The rules made it a discipline for me. A practice. Spend time thinking and writing about delight every day.

It didn’t take me long to learn that the discipline or practice of writing these essays occasioned a kind of delight radar. Or maybe it was more like the development of a delight muscle. Something that implies that the more you study delight, the more delight there is to study. A month or two into this project delights were calling to me: Write about me! Write about me! Because it is rude not to acknowledge your delights, I’d tell them that though they might not become essayettes, they were still important, and I was grateful to them. Which is to say, I felt my life to be more full of delight. Not without sorrow or fear or pain or loss. But more full of delight. I also learned this year that my delight grows—much like love and joy—when I share it.”

Gay, Ross. The Book of Delights: Essays.  Algonquin Books. Kindle Edition.

My daily “Lifelets” are a way of noticing the world around me as I continue my resilience journey.

My commitment for the next year is to write a Lifelet a day.

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